The Purpose of Desire
In this audio lesson, Ginny sits with the question: what do you actually want, and why do you want it?
The question:"I have a strong desire for relationship and for motherhood, and I’m holding out for the right conditions for both of them. What if the right conditions never arrive? And if that’s the case, what is the purpose of desire?”
It’s vulnerable to examine our desire for partnership. We know we want it. We may have wanted it for a very long time. But the wanting itself, where it comes from, what it's really asking for, what we believe partnership will do for us, often goes unexamined. More often than not, unexamined desire tends to drive us in directions that don't actually take us where we want to go.
Ginny opens by clearing away the myths most of us absorbed without choosing them, about what partnership is supposed to feel like, what it means to have it or not have it, and whether it is really the finish line we were told it was. What she offers in their place is something both more demanding and more freeing: a different relationship to the wanting itself.
This lesson is for anyone who has a list of what they're looking for. It will not invalidate that list. But it may ask you to look at it differently.
(This is an excerpt from a Telegram Q&A within The Lovers Collective.)